A couple of friends have recently been caught up in a dilemma that I’ve been unable to help them navigate through. They asked me what I would do in the same circumstances and I had to say, that I couldn’t say what I would do because how I am is different to how they are and my actions and reactions are based on completely different backgrounds, ethics, morals and upbringing.
But, it’s hard because I want to be able to help – one friend recently referred to me as Thunderbird 3, probably because I tend to get involved. The problem is that I know both friends, I know the others involved and I can see that there is no easy conclusion to the whole problem – so where do I go, if I help one am I rejecting the others?
I’m sorry to be so vague about what this is, but having had to deal with something very similar in my own life with friends who decide to take sides, I’m not prepared to do that to those I care about. Perhaps I should just say “I’ll sit on the fence and be here in a way that is as impartial as I can be”.